So I went on a coffee date with this girl yesterday and I had a great time.  I mean we just go to know each other and totally lost track of time, which is awesome.  Things went really well in my eyes and I believe that there will be more dates to come.  So this brings me to the point of this blog...this is where most people would say, ok...now wait 2-3 days and call the girl to see how things are and set up another date. 

My question is...is the 2 day rule really needed?  I mean honestly, there are times that you know you are def not calling this person back so it doesnt apply and they would know after 2-3 days that its a total no go.  But what if things went really well, and you want to talk to them again and they feel the same about you?  Why should be suffer and cause the other person to suffer the anxiety of waiting when we both know that we like each other and want to talk more, etc?  Is this part of the unspoken rules of dating, embedded in the idea of playing hard to get, or making the chase entertaining?  Isnt this what girls and guys alike complain about, is games...nobody wants to play games but yet the 2 day rule is a game.  You are making someone wait, using time to manipulate their thoughts by worrying them and making them think about every sentence they uttered during the date, etc.  I think its booshit...just call them, I mean perhaps someone could say that its a bit rash but honestly if things are mutual then they wont mind talking to you even if its just to say, "I was thinking about you and wondered if we could hang out again soon", truth never hurts people...lets stop lying to ourselves...we would like to know if the other person thought we were cool so lets just abide by the golden rule and call them.

wow...so things have kinda taken an interesting turn...

after 3 really nice dates...(date by date recap below)
date 1:
dinner: cafe asia
activity: drinks and dancing at 80's night in Adam's Morgan
thoughts: it was an awesome time, no awkward moments lots of laughs at dinner.  80's night was really fun, and a simple hug after we walked to the cars.

date 2:
dinner: hooters near the MCI Center
activity: Wizards vs Trailblazers game
thoughts: hooters was her idea, amazing?! i know i was mad suprised too.  i got these sick nasty seats...5 rows behind the Wizards bench !  it was a great time, i even dove across like 5 seats and caught a t-shirt for her! seriously i was up for date of the year...another hug, no need to rush into anything

date 3:
dinner: food at the xmas party
activity: my firm's ritzy xmas party
thoughts: i picked her up at her place, in my tux with two dozen lavendar (purple is her fave color) roses and a box of choc truffles (loves choc but never had truffles).  it was a really fun time...she came even though she had a cold, awesome.  yup another hug, a kiss could have been detrimental to my health...with her cold and all.

sooo, then it was kinda the waiting game, but she called me like 3 days later.  thus i was under the belief that she is interested, i mean why call someone after date 3 and talk to them if you werent right?! so that was a tuesday and i called her on thursday just to see if would could get together the next week before xmas, i heard nothing.  then i texted her the next wed, which was the wed before xmas...once again nothing and this time i was kinda getting worried because we had kinda a tentative date for the 26th.  so i called her on xmas eve to wish her a merry xmas and hope that things were ok, still nothing.  i gave her a week and called her on New Years Eve, to wish her a happy new year *sigh*...still nothing.

many thoughts came to mind as to why we lost contact...
1. i got hosed, she aint interested
2. cellphone issues/lost
3. something terrible happened

well i didnt know what to think...i just kinda wanted a something to let me know whats going on.  i felt like i did the best i could not to blow up her spot with lots of msgs and shit during the holidays.  i mean if she wasnt interested then she could have told me, via tex msg even...but nothing.  for a month i was patient.  i figure i deserved closure, an answer...i mean i treated her really really well, and the least that she could do was let me know straight up right?  i mean we are all grown ups here...i can take a hint, as long as i can hear it .  so since we play on the same soccer team, although she is taking the season off, i got her email from my team's capt.

so i sent her an email just to see what happened.  i wanted to let her know that i liked her, as if the dates didnt tell her that .  and that i just wanted to figure out where we stood...she responded...i nearly shat myself at work.  she said that things were crazy and will continue to be...she said that she isnt interested in pursuing a relationship right now.  and closure has come!  im fine with the outcome, i just wish she could have told me earlier.  we are goin to remain friends and stuff so there is no bad blood.  i think she is an awesome person but she handled this badly.  its all good as long as i know how things stand, i can continue forward.